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Thursday, September 12, 2024

Fasting and Long Term Weight Loss: Why I Recommend Three Meals a Day

 Three meals a day:  Why I don't recommend fasting


     So many diet experts are recommending fasting lately.   If you've read my books, you know that I do not.    Why?

         Fasting helps with weight loss in some people, but not more so than other methods.   Deliberately fasting and restricting feeding times can help some of us regulate our appetites, allow for fat burning, and also it can help regulate hormones that determine body composition.  

       If you stop fasting, however, you'll put the weight back on, just like any other diet regimen.  The body does not like to starve.  The brain, whose one job is to keep us alive, is vigilant against starvation.  It has a whole resume full of tricks to get you to eat more, slow down, hoard fat, and burn fewer calories if it senses that starvation might be possible.   

   I don't believe that fasting is ideal, and I think it can be detrimental to anyone who has suffered from disordered eating or has had food restricted in the past. 

    Reasons why some of us do not benefit from fasting are numerous.  Sometimes the cause of weight problems is a dysregulated appetite or a dysregulated metabolism.  And some of us have a dysregulated sense of reward from food.  In these cases,  it will be hard to restrict food, or if food is restricted successfully, the 8-hour eating window becomes an 8-hour binge.   The binge will upset leptin sensitivity, and also cause an insulin spike that will ensure that most of the food ingested during that 8-hour binge is stored as fat.  

     Especially for habitual dieters, or those of us who have suffered starvation or calorie restriction, the more often the body has had to do without enough food, the better it is at using starvation mode to store fat, increase food intake, and decrease energy expenditure.    So, if you have dieted in the past and lost weight, fasting may quickly trigger your body's and brain's "starvation mode".  You may find your appetite during your "eating window" voracious, so the recommendation to eat normally is impossible.  You may find you get tired and slow down.  You may also find that your brain becomes completely focused on food.   Your body is protecting you from what it sees as an upcoming threat: lack of food.   

    In addition to triggering a finely tuned starvation response, intermittent fasting can cause some chemical imbalances that cause dysregulated eating.   The two main problems intermittent fasting causes in this regard involve leptin and insulin.  

      Eating too little causes leptin to go too low, and so our appetite becomes fierce and our bodies lock down our fat stores.  When we then gorge, or eat too much, we eat past the signals from our rising leptin, we eat well past fullness.  And, this causes our cells to start ignoring leptin: our bodies still think they are hungry, and our fat doesn't come out of lockdown.

    Eating a lot all at once causes insulin to spike.  When insulin is high, fat cannot be burned.  Insulin increases appetite and tells the body to store fat.  Insulin is known as the storage hormone.  When we overeat, most of the excess calories are stored as fat because of insulin.  Also, high insulin levels cause insulin resistance, meaning our cells start to ignore insulin's call, and so they cannot absorb energy.  Fat cells become insulin resistant last, so, when we are insulin resistant, many of us can have hungry bodies that store fat before the rest of us get fed.   This is why bingers can gain weight, even if they only overeat while bingeing.  Intermittent fasting can trigger binge eating or other eating disorders in those of us with a history o

   Time between meals is a magic element that supports our other efforts to achieve or maintain a healthy body.   But we have to use time in a way that does not alert our brains fears of starvation.  Allowing time between meals does the following: 

1. Regulates Leptin sensitivity and Leptin levels.   Leptin is a substance the body makes in response to eating, higher leptin levels make us feel full and signal to our bodies that it is safe to burn fat.  However, when we overeat or eat too often, our cells stop listening to leptin.  They become leptin insensitive.  Allowing time between meals helps our leptin levels to fall, allows us to become sensitive to leptin again, and so helps to regulate our appetite.  When we are leptin insensitive, we can eat past fullness.  Especially if we are very hungry.  This is how fasting can backfire for some of us.  

 2. Supports Insulin Sensitivity.    Insulin is secreted by the pancreas in response to blood glucose.  Glucose is stored by our muscles and our cells and used for energy, but it is extremely toxic in the bloodstream.  The body wants to get glucose out of the bloodstream and stored quickly.  If our cells are full and have stopped listening to insulin, and our muscles are full as well, two things can happen.  1. Fat cells readily take up blood glucose and store it as fat, or, 2. our pancreas pumps out more and more insulin, to try to force our cells to take up more.  Especially if we have fat cells that are insulin resistant, our pancreas can wear itself out trying to get the poisonous glucose out of our bloodstream.  This is how diabetes gets started, it's also how we can store fat even though we rarely overeat, how we can feel hungry even though we've eaten enough.


    So, it is true that time between meals is important.  Time between meals allows insulin levels, blood sugar levels, and leptin levels to drop.  Time between meals gives our pancreas a rest, and our appetite a chance to reset.

  The solution is three meals a day and no eating in between.  This used to be the universal rule.  Mothers used to admonish their children not to snack or they'd, "ruin their dinner."  Eating while walking around, at one's desk, driving, or doing anything else aside from sitting at a table at mealtime was considered rude.   

    Three meals a day is an almost universal ideal that most cultures, in one way or another, have abided by since the beginning of time.   It's ancient wisdom at work.

    How do we put this into play for ourselves?  How do we harness the benefits of intermittent fasting, but avoid the problems that can arise for those of us who have had problems with disordered eating, or have had calories restricted?

  We eat breakfast in the morning.  We make sure we eat enough food to get us through til lunch.  We eat lunch 4-5 hours after breakfast, and then we eat dinner 5 or 6 hours after lunch.  And we eat nothing in between.  Which means we go from dinner time to breakfast without eating.   If we eat dinner at 6pm and then eat breakfast at 7 am, this creates a 13-hour fasting window during a time when our body is naturally programmed to slow down metabolism and digestion.  

     Personally, I have found that my body just takes longer to process food than it used to when I was younger.   So, I try each day to eat a bigger breakfast and lunch, and small, early dinner.  By eating dinner earlier, I increase fasting time without skipping a meal.  By eating a smaller dinner, my body has an easier time processing food and I wake up with a better appetite.

     I have also found that making sure I eat at least 50% of my daily caloric intake during breakfast and lunch calms my appetite down for the rest of the day.  I don't have a mid-afternoon hungry horror strike, nor do I have a late afternoon energy drop.    It is much, much easier for me to manage my appetite and avoid bingeing if I have eaten plenty earlier in the day.  The brain gets the message that food is plentiful and shuts down not only the appetite, but the reward loop that makes us motivated towards, and constantly thinking about, food. 


    For millions of years people ate without much thought to dieting.  No one was obese.  The body knows what to do with food.  If we learn what the signals are that tell our brain that starvation is possible, we can learn to avoid them, and then our appetites, our metabolisms, and our feelings of reward from food normalize.   It starts with three meals a day of healthy, whole foods.   

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Tuesday, September 3, 2024

Be Kind


   Be Kind

Morning, Noon, and Night:  Check in with yourself! 

  Add some kindness to your life.  Begin by treating yourself with kindness and tuning into your needs every day.  Sounds easy, right?  But how do we do that?  

    We start with check-ins.  Let's try one right now.   Take a deep breath and let it out slowly.  Close your eyes, and pay attention to how you are feeling.  How does your body feel?  Anything hurt, feel tight? Are you feeling antsy? Hungry? Thirsty?  Tired?
  How do you feel emotionally?  Are you sad? Scared? Angry? Bored? Lonely?
Just sit with how you are feeling for a moment.  After a minute or so, ask yourself: what can I do to take care of me right now?
    Some days it might be a simple as getting up, getting a drink of water, and grabbing a sweater.  Some days, we might reach out to a friend.  Maybe, we get up and walk around the house, our office, or the block.  Maybe we realize we need to stop for lunch.   Whatever it is, see what you can do to take care of yourself.  And, if there is nothing you can do right then, make a plan for how you may take care of yourself later on.
 
 Make it a habit to check in with yourself a few times every day. 

   And remember that kindness, along with attention, is the most powerful force of self change available to you.  Be kind to yourself, and to others as best you can. 

What does treating yourself with kindness mean? It means treating yourself with gentleness, concern, and care. Taking deep and radical care of yourself starts with first being kinder to yourself. Developing a practice of kindness to yourself starts with learning how to think about yourself in a kind and caring way, as well as taking time each day to take caring notice of yourself.

First, we must learn to take caring notice of ourselves. Many of us need practice doing this, and I have found that planning daily check-ins can be an effective way to make this a daily habit. Most people find that it works very well to check-in in the morning, at midday, and then sometime around dinner time or before bed. We can call them the Morning, Noon, and Night check-ins. Set some reminders, because this simple yet effective step can be easy to forget as your day gets underway.
Make this work with your own schedule. If you work night shifts, your morning noon and night will be different. Pick a time soon after you are awake, about halfway through your day, and then again when your day is winding down.
During these check-ins take a deep breath. Take one or two minutes to think about how you are feeling. Notice your five senses: what is going on around you and how do you feel? How does your body feel? How are you feeling emotionally? Are you feeling tired? Cold? Hungry? Sad?
Take a minute or two and think about how you feel and what you need. Then, see if there is something you can do about how you are feeling. Get up and get what you need if you can. If you can’t, take note and see if you can plan to take care of what you need when the time comes.
Maybe you don’t know what you can do about how you are feeling or what you might need. This seems like a simple exercise, but many of us struggle with it at first. If that is the case, just make a note of what you noticed. Just think on how you are feeling and take care of yourself if you can.
     These check-ins are important. They make sure that you are not neglecting your basic needs. They help you connect with your body and allow you to become aware of how you are feeling. It may seem simple, but over time these check-ins will help you to reduce stress and also to start to recognize situations that make you feel awful, such as not having anything to drink all day, or skipping lunch.
When I started with doing these check-ins, they seemed too simple and too easy at first. And then they seemed hard because I always forgot about them. What one of my volunteers did was write a reminder on a little index card and hang it in a corner next to her desk. Another programmed reminders into her phone.
Over time, many of us realized that each time we checked in we were thirsty. One of us who worked at a school was thirsty and had to pee, every single time. What kind of message is that sending to your brain, that you can’t take two minutes to take a sip of water or urinate? Talk about stress!
These check-ins, for everyone that participated in our program, significantly reduced daily stress. Most reported that they felt much calmer and settled during the day. Not allowing ourselves to get too hungry, too thirsty, too out of touch with our physical needs or how we felt emotionally, allowed us to focus on the present.
Those of us who work during the day used the check-ins to refocus at work. Instead of getting off track or distracted from the most important tasks for the day, during the check-in, we were able to realize what we had accomplished so far that day and could take a minute to think about what we could do to wrap up the day and leave work feeling less stressed.
Over time, most of us noticed that our needs during our check-ins changed. Those of us who found ourselves thirsty all the time began drinking more water more consistently throughout the day. And then, during check-ins, other needs made themselves known. The need to get up and walk a little. Or go find someone to talk to for a minute. Or the need to take one minute, close one’s eyes, take a deep breath, and allow the brain to rest from the stress of the day.
As you do this, you will find yourself calmer and less reactive during the day. You might end up shocked at some of the basic things you have allowed yourself to go without for too long during your day. Eventually, taking care of these things will become more automatic.
For now, make sure to have three times a day that work for you. Check in with yourself three times a day: Morning, Noon, and Night.
In your journal, or on an index card or postcard that you put on your refrigerator or on your nightstand (yes, you can use your phone as long as you remember to look at it!), write a reminder.
Some things to think about during these check-ins:
  1. Food: Sometimes we get busy and we forget to eat. While we can lose track of how hungry we are, being hungry makes us stressed, irritable, and unable to focus. Give your body something nutritious to eat three times a day. Avoid sugar because it can depress our mood and makes us more hungry. Sometimes, when we don’t eat regular meals, we get struck with the hungry horrors and then end up making unhealthy food choices, or just eating whatever appears in front of us or whatever is easiest. Pick something to eat that is nutritious, such as some nuts, a piece of fruit, some protein, some cut-up vegetables with some nut butter. Also, think about meal times. Having regular meal times helps keep your body rhythms regular, helps keep your energy up, and helps you not get too hungry or eat too much in between meals.
  2. Water: Many of us who tried this step came to the realization during our check-ins that we spent most of the day thirsty. Staying hydrated helps us feel less tired, more alert, and it helps improve most bodily functions. Just about every part of your body needs water and your body has lots of warning signs that it throws out to try to get you to drink. Being hydrated makes us feel better. Check in with yourself and if you are thirsty or haven’t had any water in a while, drink a glass and see how it makes you feel. While everyone’s needs for water are different, it’s a good idea to have a glass in the morning, at lunch, and at dinner at the very least, so making sure you have water available at your check-ins is a good way to make sure you stay hydrated throughout the day.
  3. Movement: We also know that sitting for a long time can reduce our circulation, and create a state of inertia that can be hard to break. If you haven’t been up in a while, or if you find yourself sitting a lot, get up and stretch or walk for a minute (even if it’s just walking to the bathroom). If you have a job where you have to be on your feet all day, maybe taking a minute to stretch, sit down, and think about what you need would work best for you.
  4. Rest: Sometimes, we are doing too much. If you have a physically demanding job, are home alone with little ones, or are working on a big project and can lose track of time, during your check-ins see if maybe what you need is a bit of a rest. Sit down and relax for a minute or two. Scan your body and see if you can let go of any tension that your are holding. Take a break from what you are doing and refocus and refresh.
Check-ins reduce stress, and help us be more aware of how we are feeling physically and emotionally. They allow us to not only take care of problems and stressors as they arise, but also help us to react more thoughtfully and calmly to problems as they arise throughout the day. Check-ins also reduce cortisol. This is a big deal. Cortisol is the chemical our bodies release during times of stress. Lowering cortisol levels improves our overall health in profound ways. Lowering cortisol helps with insulin resistance, maintaining muscle mass, appetite control, immune system function, digestion issues, and also helps support our mood, our focus, and our ability to respond creatively and calmly to problems as they arise. Check-ins are powerful habits.
So, check in with yourself three times a day and take care of what you need. Remember: Morning, Noon, and Night!
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Thursday, March 21, 2024

   Escaping the Obesity Trap 


  

                                    If you have dieted on and off for most of your life, and still struggle with weight, my latest research is for you.  
    The truth is that our bodies and brains consider fat to be our most precious resource.  And when we send our bodies the signals that we are stressed, facing danger, exhausted, or perhaps facing isolation or lack of access to food, our bodies start storing fat.  When we send our brains the signals that stress, lack, too much activity, and social isolation are upon us in any combination, they think winter is coming and start preparing.  By making sure that you eat, conserve energy, and stay focused on food.


 

Why????

This may be the question you have asked yourself many times. Because you have dieted.  Indeed, you may have done all of the diets.  And you don’t need to be told that junk food is bad for you and fruits and vegetables are good.  Or that you should walk more, exercise more, or reduce your stress.  You know these things.  


The truth is that obesity is complicated.  And the advice we are given to solve the problem just makes the problem worse.  Because obesity is caused by a disruption in the systems that regulate appetite, metabolism, and the feelings of reward we get from food.  

Obesity is a result of many complex biological systems that have been honed over millennia to keep us alive.   If you are struggling with obesity, chances are that you have also struggled with exhaustion, extreme stress, dieting or caloric restriction, social stressors, trauma, and loss.  


Our brain’s number one goal, its only job, is to keep us alive. And that is a tricky job.  Starvation, from our brain’s perspective, is a number one enemy.  Trauma, social isolation, deep stress, and loss, are also signals that we are in danger.  Our brains are designed to go into protection mode when any of these things befall us.  The more we have suffered from any one or any combination of these factors, the more likely we are to be obese.

Obesity is not a moral, intellectual, or behavioral failure.  It’s a symptom of an ancient survival mechanism that is getting triggered because of the signals we are sending to our brains.  Unfortunately, the advice we have been given to address obesity only adds to the problem.  When we are eating less and moving more, our bodies and brains think we are in danger.  And so they work together to hoard fat.


Why would they hoard fat?  Because it considers fat to be its most precious resource.  Fat heals.  It warms. It renourishes. It regrows. And it fuels.  It’s a treasure trove of health, wellness, and survival.  When we don’t eat enough, our brains think that is because there is not enough food.  When we are stressed, traumatized, or isolated, our brains think that we may be in danger.  The answer to both of those situations is to horde fat.


The only way to turn this process around is to allow our bodies to become resplendent with nutrients, and convince it that all is well, we are safe, happy, rested, and connected to our world. How do we do this? 


By following the steps in this book.   Add them in one at a time.  Modify them to adjust to where you are at and what you are capable of doing right now.  No one can make all of these changes all at once, especially if they are vastly different than what you are used to doing.  Maybe try picking the first habit in each category to begin.  Or, begin only with the food category, and then move on as you feel ready.


Be kind to yourself.  You did not become obese overnight.  And you have suffered from years of bad advice.  We can unravel this problem one step at a time, together.  Be patient, be kind, and adjust as you see fit. 

As I explained in my other two books, The Short Guide to OverEating and The Daily Hearth,  when our appetites, our metabolisms, or our sense of reward from food get out of whack, we can become obese.   These forces: appetite, metabolism, and our reward system, exert power over your behavior.  They have to control your food intake: their only job is to keep you alive.  Starvation, exhaustion, stress, and loneliness or social isolation are seen, by your brain, as significant threats to survival.  When survival is threatened, these systems are cued to increase appetite and store fat.

We are programmed not to starve, indeed, to avoid starvation at any cost.  These systems are impossible to fight, but the good news is that once we understand them, we can work with them to our benefit.   This program will allow your appetite, your metabolism, and your feelings of reward from food normalize.  Once you have those systems under control, coming to a healthy weight becomes automatic.


Appetite:

Appetite is the feeling of hunger and desire for food.  Chemically and hormonally regulated by our hypothalamus, our appetite can be turned down or up depending on the signals the brain is getting about our environment.  Signals that turn up appetite, or drive us to want more food and to feel more hungry are: calorie restriction, exhaustion, and stress.  

Calorie restriction invigorates our appetite because when we do not get enough food, our brains worry that we might starve.  So it increases our appetite to make sure we eat whatever happens to cross our paths.  When we are extraordinarily hungry, our brains may make us extra ravenous for anything that will provide quick, easily eatable, and digestible energy, such as sugars and starches.  Having a history of food restriction or dieting may set us up to be especially susceptible to these types of cravings.

Our brains also want to make sure we get the right nutrition.  So, if we are low on important nutrients, our brains do not shut our appetite down, even if we have eaten.  This is why we can be starving again after eating dinner and then having an after-dinner snack or dessert.  If our meals have been lacking in the most essential nutrients, our hunger, or our “food chatter” or constant underlying thoughts about food, do not shut off.  Again, this is because our brains want to make sure we eat something that contains the nutrients we are lacking, should they appear in front of us.  

To shut down our appetite, we have to eat enough of the most essential nutrients.  Those nutrients are largely amino acids, B vitamins, selenium, iron, and zinc.  And they all exist in meat.  High-quality protein is the answer to shutting down the appetite.


Metabolism:

Metabolism is the process by which our bodies burn and store energy.  When we are very hungry, very tired, or very stressed, our bodies slow down our metabolism.  This means that we burn fewer calories as fuel and store more as fat because our brains think that we may be in danger, and they save up our fat to use later, once the danger has passed.

Having a slower metabolism can also make us feel more sensitive to cold, more tired, and less motivated.  When our metabolisms are struggling, we can have a hard time understanding how others have the energy to go out and do things, or why they would choose to when they can stay home wrapped in a blanket watching movies.  Metabolism issues slow us down, make us feel less motivated and possibly depressed, and colder.  We can also get to the point where our bodies are storing fat first, even before we get those calories to be used for energy, our immune systems, and our muscles.  We can be continually hungry even as our bodies are storing fat.

The only way to increase metabolism is to first rest and eat adequate amounts of nutrient-dense foods so that our bodies know we will be fed and famine isn’t lurking around the corner.  Once we are rested and fed regularly the right amounts of appropriate food, then we can build some muscle to increase the amount of energy our bodies burn. 


Sense of reward from food:

When we reach a goal, we feel good.  When we work hard and complete a task, we feel good.  When we solve a problem, we feel good. Those good feelings are caused by a neurotransmitter called dopamine.  Dopamine is designed to reward us for doing things that keep us alive or make our lives better so that we are motivated to do things that ensure our survival.  From our brain’s perspective, nothing is more important than food.   We feel rewarded when we eat food.

Our brains know that life is tricky, though.  And that sometimes food is harder to come by than at others.  So, it has a plan.  When it thinks that the signals we are sending it are showing that food is scarce, or is in danger of becoming scarce, it INCREASES the reward we feel from procuring and eating food.  Food can become a huge motivating factor for us, and we can experience an exaggerated feeling of reward from it under certain circumstances.

What are those circumstances?  Starvation or calorie restriction, exhaustion, and severe stress or trauma.  Especially psychosocial stress or trauma if we are feeling lonely, isolated, humiliated, or not in control of the quality of our own lives.  These stressors are interpreted by the brain as harbingers of doom.   And the brain responds by making sure that taking care of finding and consuming food is of utmost importance.

Psychosocial stressors are particularly effective at making us feel more motivated towards and rewarded by food.  Why would this be?  Because, hundreds of years ago, it was almost impossible to survive on one’s own.  You needed the support of your tribe.  Even if you were the strongest hunter in the group, you could still get sick, break a leg, or encounter some kind of mishap.  Then, you would be dependent on your friends and family to feed you.  Social isolation was almost certain starvation.   

So, when we undergo psychosocial stressors, such as being left out, isolated, humiliated, overlooked, made to feel less than, etc, we can trigger this response.  Because, in the past, we had one group and one group only, and if we were being edged out, it would make sense to pack on the pounds to help increase the chances that we would survive until we could improve our situation.  


We can turn this around by doing what we can to reduce the stress in our lives. We can also reach out to connect with those we know who have always been kind and foster positive friendships. We can also take time to add things we love to do into our daily routine and take the time to notice the good things all around us, to prompt our brain to make more dopamine in response to things that are not food. We can also take note of our accomplishments and work towards goals that are not food.  



To correct our appetites, our metabolisms, and our sense of motivation and reward from food, we need to develop a specific set of self-care habits.   As we improve our self-care, our weight balances out.   We reach our ideal weight when we are taking the best care of ourselves that we possibly can.


  What are those steps?  I have identified three different categories of steps. As we adopt changes in all three categories, we allow our appetites to abate, our metabolisms to stoke, and our focus to move off of food and onto engaging and connecting in other areas of life. Those three areas of habits are: Nutrition, Activity, and Self Care. When take a hard look at how we are feeding ourselves, how we are taking care of our bodies, and how we are taking care of our mental health, and make the necessary changes, weight management follows naturally.


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Sunday, February 25, 2024

 

    The Angsty Teen's Guide to Friendship


       Some teens make friends naturally.  Others struggle to connect.  While friendship in all its forms is an integral part of growing up, some kids need direct assistance in this area.  This book helps teach teens who struggle the basic skills needed to connect with others and maintain quality friendships in real life.  


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Friendships are important, especially to teens. But it can be hard to reach out to connect with others. Increasingly, adults and teens alike are finding friendship difficult. This short, easy guide helps teens learn the social and friendship rules that allow relationships to grow.

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Thursday, January 25, 2024

Creating a Self Care Plan: Allow Your Body to Automatically Manage Weight

 Creating a Self-Care Plan:   Allow Your Body to  Automatically Balance Weight 


    If you've read my diet books, you know that I struggled with weight my whole life.  Eventually, after years of restricting calories, relentlessly exercising, and trying every diet I could find, I washed up on the shore of exhaustion, depletion, and a completely tanked metabolism.  

    It took learning the truth about deep self care to heal my metabolism, calm my appetite, and restore my health.  Once  did so, not only did I lose weight, but my body composition changed dramatically.

    But it seems that the medical industry has given up thinking critically about the causes of weight gain, and also of the solutions.  More often, they are prescribing surgery and drugs.  Even to children.

    But you can take control of your weight and feel better by improving self-care.  

                   I read yesterday in the New York Times, that Ozempic, and other drugs now being used to "fight the obesity crisis" are teaching us that appetite and weight gain are not moral failings.   

                It shocks me to think that any educated person, especially doctors, think that, or have ever thought that obesity was caused by loose morals.   There are plenty of immoral skinny people.  And so many people who struggle with their weight know full well the advice that gets shouted constantly, "just cut out the garbage!" "Eat Less"  "Exercise More"!  We all know this, and those of us who are struggling aren't not doing it on purpose.  The truth is we can't.

      Obesity is caused by exhaustion, calorie or nutrient restriction or depletion, and deep stress.  These three factors create an insatiable appetite and a lack of energy.  They create a deep craving for high calorie, easily digestible foods, and they also create a non-stop "food chatter" in the mind so that we are always thinking about food, always wondering what and when we can eat next. 

   The only way to change this is to make sure that we have plenty of nutrition and plenty of rest, and we reduce the stress in our lives as much as possible.  Anything we can do to address these three factors will allow our bodies to slow down our appetite and speed up our metabolism.  

    As I researched for my book, The Short Guide to Ordered Eating, the one thing that stood out to me when I poured through piles of research, was that obesity is caused by a lack of consistent and high-quality self-care.

       What are those self-care habits that help your body naturally balance weight?

  They are all simple, free, and accessible to most of us.   

1. Improve our nutrient status by eating high-nutrient food at mealtime, three times a day. 

2. Improving our sleep by implementing good, regular sleep habits. 

3. Reducing our stress


    In my books, I go over the habits that impact these three factors.   Really, the only way to start though is to pick a few changes that we know we can commit to over the next month, and implement those. Once we are consistently doing them, we can add more.   

    These deeply impactful habits can be organized into three categories: Food, Fitness, and Self-Care (Stress reduction).   If we pick one thing in each of those categories that seems doable and implement it for a month, we'd be quite surprised to see how much progress can be made in a short time.

   If you are just getting started, here are some basic habits you can choose from, pick one from each section and take it from there.  

Food:  

  1. Add protein to each meal: the brain will not shut off appetite until it has had enough protein.  Add protein to each meal.  

2. Eat MORE earlier in the day.

3. Limit eating to meal times, and do not eat between dinner and breakfast.  


Fitness:

    1. Walk for 5-10 minutes every day.  Even if you just walk out the front door and down the hall or to the end of the walkway or driveway, get up and walk for a few minutes each day.

    2. If walking is too hard, or mobility is an issue, do some kind of movement to music or while watching TV for 5-10 minutes each day.

    3. Do 5-7 minutes of body weight exercises each day (YouTube has great videos, and the 7-minute workout app has beginner workouts.

    4. Commit to not sitting as long each day.  Stand more, even if it's just by the sink to do dishes, or to pick up around the house.  

  Note:  Some of us have become extremely depleted and exhausted.  If you are extremely intolerant to exercise, or any of these habits are too hard, skip habits in this section until you are feeling better.  Chances are, once you have addressed your nutrient status and level of stress and exhaustion, you will find yourself naturally wanting to move more.  It's okay to wait for now)

Self Care:

    1. Sleep: sleep deeply impacts our stress levels, our appetites, and our metabolism.  Improve sleep hygiene and sleep habits.  Get up in the morning, eliminate napping, and get to bed 7-8 hours before wake-up time.  

    2. Create a nighttime routine that supports sleep: before bed, take care of personal hygiene, take a warm bath or shower, read in bed, or listen to relaxing music.  

    3. Make time to do something you love to do each day, even if it's for five minutes: draw, paint, sing, fix something, knit, listen to music, write, read, cook, look for stars in the night sky, watch the sunrise or sunset, dance, bike, play a game, etc.

4. Three daily check-ins:  Three times a day, take a deep breath, scan your body and release any tension, and tune in to how you are feeling.  Ask yourself what you need, and see if you can do something about that: maybe a drink of water, a walk around the block or up and down the hall, a sweater if your cold, maybe you didn't realize you've been holding your breath or have to use the bathroom.  Just take note of how you are feeling, and if you need anything, and see if you can let go of any unnecessary muscle tension.


   These basic self-care habits will start to impact your appetite, your metabolism, and also your feelings about food.  Go slow, remember to start small, and build from there.  If you have a lot of weight to lose, are physically challenged, or just haven't exercised in a long time, be extra gentle with yourself.  It's okay to start even smaller, pick one thing to change and work on that!

   If you already have some of these habits in place and are ready for more, my book, The Daily Hearth will teach you how to take your self-care routine to the next level, so that you can impact the factors that are preventing you from being at your best weight.


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The Short Guide To Ordered Eating

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We all have heard of disordered eating. We know that eating disorders include not eating enough to keep ourselves healthy, or eating so much food that we sicken ourselves. But, what is ordered eating? Why has no one described what the opposite of eating disorders might be?
And why, despite so much diet advice, do we all seem to continue, in general, to gain weight?

This book delves into these topics and explains why the diet experts are all right, but also all wrong. Every diet works until it doesn't. The key is not to starve ourselves or to find the one kind of food we can eat without gaining. It's also not to punish our diet transgressions with excessive exercise. The key is to rediscover ordered eating. Our bodies know what to do with food. We just have to eat in a way that supports our appetites, and our metabolisms, and removes food from our brains as a key source of motivation and pleasure.

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Monday, January 8, 2024

Reaching Your Goals Automatically with a Daily Routine

 


Is your daily routine taking you where you want to go?

      When we set a goal, we have every intention of doing just that; when we set a goal, we are making a statement about something we want.  But, then... life gets in the way.  So many things shout, ping, and call to us, and we get pulled off track.  Setting a goal is just that: stating a desired outcome.  But many of us expect to meet those goals with no map on how to get there, and no idea about how to change or adjust our daily behavior to achieve long-term goals.
    
    To meet our goals, we have to figure out the steps that we will need to take to get there, and then make a plan about what we will do differently each and every day to take those steps.  We have to decide what we are going to do, and when and how we are going to do it.   
    The truth is that decision-making is exhausting.  It's very difficult to constantly make decisions about when to do things, what to do, and how much to do them.   When we have to decide, after a long day at work, whether or not to go to the gym, it can get really easy to talk ourselves out of it.  Then, we feel a little relief about not going.  That feeling of relief gives us a little hit of feeling good.  So, our brain guides our behavior there: subconsciously, we KNOW we will feel great if we stay home and rest, because that is our most recent experience.  The reward from working out is uncertain, so, we end up sabotaging ourselves because avoiding the reward that is harder to get (the reward from working out) becomes our default behavior. 


      We reach our goals when we make the steps required to get to those goals part of our daily routine.  We set a schedule and stick to it, and, eventually the steps to our goal become automatic.  When we create a daily schedule that incorporates the steps to our goals, we automatically end up achieving more than we ever thought we could.
          When we make the steps a habit, we get to where we want to go automatically.  

  This is why I wrote the book, The Daily Hearth.   The book teaches us how to take the new research around weight loss and weight management and make those ideas into daily habits.

   The book teaches us to pick habits from the three categories that drive our body weight and physical health:  1. Food, 2. Fitness and 3. Self-Care.  By picking one habit from each of the three categories, and working those into our daily schedule until they become automatic habits, like brushing our teeth or getting our coffee, we set ourselves up to meet our goals seemingly without effort.   Slowly, we add habits from each category as we are able, and we end up with a plan that gets us to where we want to be and keeps us there.

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The Daily Hearth: Simple Habits that Powerfully Control and Balance Weight A Companion to The Short Guide to Ordered Eating Paperback – June 29, 2023

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Your body knows what to do with food. Obesity doesn't happen simply because people have somehow missed the advice that moving more and eating less might help. The problem is that very often, those things do not help. Or, for many of us, those things are impossible to maintain.
The truth is that obesity develops when our appetite, our metabolism, and our sense of motivation towards and reward from food have all become dysregulated. When we are dysregulated in this way, we can eat well beyond fullness and still want to eat. We can eat less than others and still gain weight. We can become preoccupied with food so that we are most motivated by the food associated with holidays and events than anything else.
How does this happen? It happens when our brains and bodies get the signals that it might be in our best interest to store fat. Stress, trauma, exhaustion, low-calorie intake or dieting, over-exertion or over-exercising, lack of sleep, and low-nutrient status are some of the factors that send our brains and bodies the signals that it's time to store food, slow down, and focus on making sure we get more food whenever it is available.
We can learn to send the opposite signals. By adjusting our behavior and our environment, we can start to send signals that it is okay to burn fat. In my book, 
The Short Guide to Ordered Eating, I describe the factors that help to regulate appetite, improve metabolism, and encourage motivation and a sense of reward around things that are not food. This book can work as a companion to The Short Guide to Ordered Eating. But it can also work on its own.
When they systems that control our food intake and our fat storage become dysregulated, it is because our eating is somehow disordered. By learning not ordered eating, but also other habits that improve self care, reduce stress, and allow our bodies to burn fat, seek out rewards that are not food, and also regulate our appetite so that we feel satiated with our meals, our bodies can balance our weight, and we can find not only improved health, but an improved quality of life. We can find happiness and motivation as we find our way to ordered eating as we learn to adopt these habits into our daily lives.

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